tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488902660613342431.post6229361933232932841..comments2023-09-06T07:57:59.856-07:00Comments on Scribbling Away To Glory: I wonder...Scribbler :)http://www.blogger.com/profile/15069282284867549693noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488902660613342431.post-79272877009939357202009-08-11T05:33:02.436-07:002009-08-11T05:33:02.436-07:00loved this....the subject is very close to my hear...loved this....the subject is very close to my heart....reminded of Wordsworth's "the world is too much with us"...happy writing!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14911348199415607511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488902660613342431.post-34573879203834120972009-07-21T01:48:31.794-07:002009-07-21T01:48:31.794-07:00And, if I may just add to the huge comment list, j...And, if I may just add to the huge comment list, judging is a way of ascertaining value of items and positioning it in "your" value chain. <br /><br />I would like people to judge me because that way I am sure I am being evaluated, and not just smiled/glossed over.<br /><br />The corner where "judging" bumps into "appreciation of beauty/stuff" is where the acceptance street starts. We sometimes respond unhappily to judging because we want to be accepted by other people for whatever we are and like. It is not easy to like the cannon, but it is more difficult to love something and not get it accepted by others. IMHO.<br /><br />Once we stop expecting others to "accept" what I like, the "judging" act becomes neutral and we can be more at ease with Govinda or, in my case, Munnabhai.<br /><br />If I am allowed to hog the comment space further, I'd like to go to a related hypothesis I have. We, I guess, take "liking" as an endless wall, as if it is there as one whole and not built brick by brick. Somehow the notion of unconditional liking, I'm afraid, has something to do with us sometimes not probing into why we like something. For example, excuse the showing off but since we started with an example from music etc., I am listening to Dvorak these days and I like a fast piece called "Humouresque" a lot, while the other more complex peieces, Wikipedia and other websites tell me, are to be appreciated more. If I analyze the structure of my liking, I will see that I am not aware of the grammar of the complex pieces and hence a racy tune appeals to me more. Once I realize that my understanding of music is rudimentary, it places me in a position where I can understand why people with more musical bones in their body may think that my taste in Dvorak needs improvement.<br /><br />However, sneering is bad taste and not judging, so I will keep that out of consideration.<br /><br />As for Mr. Bell and beauty, given our socio-historical background, we should work harder to appreciate those kinds. Beauty, sorry for being trite, is culturally constructed, and enjoyed as much. Hence, it is expected that certain people, when given the visual stimulus of Sydney Opera House, will expect grand music and will not in a subway. <br /><br />I think I have neatly collated most commonplace observations on this point, and thanks folks for going through it! :-)Dip Narayanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18418883898710639576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488902660613342431.post-21839984671689404202009-06-30T23:57:01.307-07:002009-06-30T23:57:01.307-07:00And I think you have your post with the highest co...And I think you have your post with the highest comment count yet.Paws Awhilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01007490285605141513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488902660613342431.post-22113755376220479712009-06-30T23:47:04.258-07:002009-06-30T23:47:04.258-07:00@ KG - God promise :)@ KG - God promise :)Scribbler :)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15069282284867549693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488902660613342431.post-75898466088791508102009-06-30T23:44:58.390-07:002009-06-30T23:44:58.390-07:00promise u wont judge?? :D :D :Dpromise u wont judge?? :D :D :DThe Ketchup Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05064255148939739911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488902660613342431.post-91782658250037497162009-06-30T23:40:12.491-07:002009-06-30T23:40:12.491-07:00KG - Good idea about the post. Will you start?KG - Good idea about the post. Will you start?Scribbler :)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15069282284867549693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488902660613342431.post-69849316095103182222009-06-30T23:39:38.170-07:002009-06-30T23:39:38.170-07:00Ani - Yes, it surely works 'both ways'. Bu...Ani - Yes, it surely works 'both ways'. But to a great extent the onus is on us. We can't change others. But we can work towards what you have said 'having both these people in us'. We have to stop judging ourselves first...and then stop judging others. By that we can hope to overcome our fear of being judged.Scribbler :)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15069282284867549693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488902660613342431.post-80600724552432776482009-06-30T23:14:14.853-07:002009-06-30T23:14:14.853-07:00But Nonz, is it really fair to put the entire onus...But Nonz, is it really fair to put the entire onus on oneself. I agree with you that we should not be ashamed of who or what we are... but to leave it at that would probably be unfair.<br /><br />Hardly any human equation works with one person... there has to be at least two people in any scenario... one who is not ashamed, and one who will not judge.<br /><br />Interestingly, we should probably have a bit of both these people in us in order to make the ideal situation work.<br /><br />We need to not be ashamed of ourselves, and we need to not judge others. Sadly, it is a tough call for most.Paws Awhilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01007490285605141513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488902660613342431.post-9406460292246955482009-06-30T23:12:51.372-07:002009-06-30T23:12:51.372-07:00lets have a post on - things I'd like to talk ...lets have a post on - things I'd like to talk about but am scared i'll be judged- my point number one will be: I loved watcing one particular ekta kapoor serial, even if it meant turning off sex and the city.<br /><br />we live in a continuous state of falseood and self deceit..The Ketchup Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05064255148939739911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488902660613342431.post-64174250609090783732009-06-30T23:04:52.826-07:002009-06-30T23:04:52.826-07:00Ani - I agree with you. In certain situations we a...Ani - I agree with you. In certain situations we alll end up judging...and no I wouldn't hire a person in motley either :) But as long as we are not ashamed of who we are, and can express ourselves without the constant fear of being judged ...all's well with this world.Scribbler :)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15069282284867549693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488902660613342431.post-2043718330471297722009-06-30T22:51:12.498-07:002009-06-30T22:51:12.498-07:00Hmm... when you generalise the last paragraph, the...Hmm... when you generalise the last paragraph, then I have to say that we can be judgmental at times - but not all the times.. <br /><br />No matter how big a whiz you are, it is highly unlikely that a hiring manager would give you that coveted job if you appear for the interview in a yellow and maroon ensemble.<br /><br />I don't agree with the movie that says 'first impression is the last impression', but first impression is what usually gets you through the door.<br /><br />Then depending on the qualities you start to acquire or drop, it goes either uphill or downhill.<br /><br />OK. I am not making any sense anymore.Paws Awhilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01007490285605141513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488902660613342431.post-49128474551197663602009-06-30T20:46:04.605-07:002009-06-30T20:46:04.605-07:00Thanks guys! But I don't really mean 'ME&#...Thanks guys! But I don't really mean 'ME' in the last paragraph. I cannot play kabaddi(nor golf)...and neither am I a fan of Chacha Chowdhury or Govinda. What I meant was, many people woudn't own up to these, even if they were actually fond of such things.<br />That, I think, is quite sad.Scribbler :)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15069282284867549693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488902660613342431.post-86800606733578273722009-06-30T03:15:54.968-07:002009-06-30T03:15:54.968-07:00Superb post...and very self-reflective. This depre...Superb post...and very self-reflective. This depressive syndrome pains me as well...I've noticed this in so many people around me.Debanjanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15234338378307896729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488902660613342431.post-56760705834052763462009-06-30T03:07:10.177-07:002009-06-30T03:07:10.177-07:00Janish .. i cross a canal for shortcut to keshtopu...Janish .. i cross a canal for shortcut to keshtopur at least once a week .. it was only last Saturday that I stopped over and told gargi .. take the view from here .. the setting sun really makes it special .. isnt it.. she was in accordance... i know there are loads of my pals to whom if i expressed the view they would have said .. ei nongra khal o tor bhalo lagche.. mathata geche... but i think i would have still gone ahead and mentioned if i liked it at that moment ..<br /><br />And yes .. true friends will alwayz be there .. even if you are not saying what they wanna hear.Abhishekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15825530250311860107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4488902660613342431.post-85254542549645743972009-06-30T02:49:11.884-07:002009-06-30T02:49:11.884-07:00I would smile at you... hell, I would give you one...I would smile at you... hell, I would give you one tight hug, or many... even if you weren't the star you are.Paws Awhilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01007490285605141513noreply@blogger.com